The Sanctity of Marriage
by Rev. Toni Dunbar
"I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I believe
a marriage is between a man and a woman, and I think we ought to codify
that one way or the other." (President George W. Bush, Jr., 7/30/03)
Marriage is a sacred institution. It's so sacred that any two heterosexuals
can get married "just for the hell of it" and have their marriage
cancelled a few days later like it never happened. Meanwhile, gays and
lesbians who have been partners for many years don't have the basic
rights and responsibilities that any married couple expects, no matter
how briefly they are married -- even for 55 hours. It's just crazy,
The Last Fear
by Bill Clearlake
"I ain't afraid of nothin'!"
What this last fear does to men and what it drives us to do to ourselves, each other, our friends, families, and the world at large is an immense tragedy.
The fear of the feminine drives men to limit how we express ourselves. It limits our ability to feel and express our emotions. It prevents us from having close relationships with others. It often drives us into needlessly risky behavior to "prove our manhood." It can drive us to violence towards others in order to prove our toughness or to punish someone else for being "weak." The same fear can even lead to violence towards ourselves when we can't live up (or actually down) to the rigid standards we define as masculine.
If you were born a man then anything you do is an expression of your own individual manliness. You're already a man and there's nothing you need to prove. Maybe your way doesn't fit the masculine stereotype. So what.
Be yourself. What are you, chicken?